The definition of a perfectionist is a person who refuses to accept any standard short of perfection. As with any personality trait, there are degrees of perfection, some even approaching the neurotic or compulsive. But while a perfectionist is able to perform well in some areas, such as getting good grades in school or performing well on the job, other areas may suffer, especially personal relationships.
A perfectionist is, by nature, critical of others and themselves. There is no room for mistakes. Everything must be done in a certain way and those who do not conform are dismissed. The end result is what is important, not who they trample on to get there. Because of these high standards, perfectionists are often stressed, overworked, and depressed.
Verses from the Bible to Help You Overcome
Matthew 11:28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Jesus does not want you burdened, stressed, and overworked. Do what you must and let Him give you rest.
Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. Tenderhearted and forgiving people do not expect perfection in others or in themselves.
1st Corinthians 6:20 For ye are bought with a price . . . You have been bought with the precious blood of Christ and adopted into the family of God. You no longer have to prove that you are worthy because Jesus has already validated your worth.
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